Hippy Affirmation Day 21

I Focus On What Is Possible.

I Focus On What Is Possible.When I think of this affirmation the word “can” comes to mind.  There are times when I hear the dialogue in my head coming up with reasons that I can’t do something. A recent good example of this reasoning is that I am planning to have my first table of jewelry at a craft fair or event. I haven’t even done the research on what I need to do or even what events are available. Yet, I am trying to talk myself out of it by asking myself these kinds of questions:

What if I go through all the work and people don’t want to buy my jewelry?

Do I really want to go through the let down feelings when people look at my jewelry and pass it up?

My thoughts are going to what is not possible not what is possible. I am believing that I can’t be successful. Right now I am turning my thinking around. I now tell myself that I can be successful and that it is very possible that I will go through all the work and people will want to buy my jewelry. Realistically there will probably be some people who will pass my jewelry up. I don’t need to take that personally. I don’t want fear of feeling let down prevent me from making an attempt to make this happen.

Is there something that your inner dialogue is telling yourself you can’t do? Perhaps you can examine what it is that is keeping you in that mode of thinking. Discovering what holds you back can help you change your thinking about doing it. It might then be beneficial to tell yourself that whatever it is that you want to do is possible. Simply replacing the can’t thoughts with can thoughts is a very powerful exercise.

By focusing on what can happen not what can’t happen we can give ourselves the encouragement that we need to attempt what seems like the impossible thereby making it possible.

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Hippy Affirmation Day 20

Today I Will Speak Positively.

Today I Will Speak Positively

In Hippy Affirmation Day 19 I focused on thinking positively. I postulated that first we need to think positively before we can speak positively. Thinking and speaking are inextricably linked. Think about it by trying this exercise. Try to say something without thinking about it. You can’t, can you?

Thinking positively means to expect good and favorable results. When you think positively you are prepared for health, happiness and a good ending in any situation. With this type of mindset you can create the life you want and need. Speaking positively is an essential part of this process.

Most of us are largely unaware of what words we choose and why we choose them. Essentially, we usually use words that we have been trained to use. Our speech is a behavior inherited from our family of origin or the people who influenced us as we were growing up. It is time to evaluate our speech to ferret out the words that are working against us – meaning those that keep us from creating the best for us.

What does it mean to speak positively? It is the structure of our words that help us to get the things we need the most out of life. To speak positively we want to ask ourselves these questions:

  1. What words do I choose and why do I choose them?
  2. What emotions result from the words that I choose?
  3. Are my words mostly positive or negative?

I encourage you to ask yourself these questions then adjust your language accordingly. Then observe how your life changes (including how you feel about life).

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Black, Green & Gold Lampwork Glass Bead Murano Pendant Set

Murano Black Gold And Green Necklace Braclet And Earring Set

Red and Gold Lampwork Glass Bead Murano Pendant Set

Beautifully coordinated variant shapes of lampwork beads and dichoric glass pendant.

Sometimes you just have to make something that is not so matchy matchy that becomes something funky. This set has elements that match as far as color goes and that it is made of glass beads and a glass pendant. But, it does go askew a bit with beads that have various shapes and style. Yet, it works and works well.

Necklace is made of various lampwork gold and black beads, green and copper e beads, gold bugle beads and a lovely black, green, brown and gold leaf-shaped dichoric glass pendant. It measures with toggle clasp 24″ in length with a pendant that is 2 3/4″ in length and 1 1/2″ in width. Total length with pendant is 26 3/4″. Bracelet is a stretch bracelet with the same types of beads as the necklace. It is 7″ in length. Earrings that are also made of lampwork glass beads, gold bugle beads and green and gold e beads measure 2″ in length and 1/4″ in width.

An original one-of-a-kind necklace and earring set hand-crafted by artisan Angela Star.

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Hippy Affirmation Day 19

Today I Will Think Positively.

Today I Will Think Positively.In Hippy Affirmation Day 18 I recommended that we not say one negative word to people during our encounters with them as a way to radiate positive vibes and spread good energy. I want to follow up with this affirmation that recommends thinking positively. As words follow from thoughts, the next affirmation after this one will focus on speaking positively.

How do we think positively? Most of us do not pay attention to the thoughts that we think. I guess you could say that we are on automatic pilot. We go about our day with all kinds of thoughts buzzing around our heads. We need to be aware of the thoughts that we are thinking. If we are not aware of what the thoughts are that we are thinking then our moods can easily be ruled by them.

How else can we think positively? We can avoid labeling or judging our thoughts. By learning not to judge them we are training ourselves to let go of judging in general. Judging can be a very negative activity that stands in the way of positive thinking. Deepak Chopra wrote a book called The Ultimate Happiness Prescription: 7 Keys to Joy and Enlightenment. 

The Ultimate Happiness Prescription

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One of the exercises that he talks about in this book is going through your whole day without judging. This means no judging whatsoever. You don’t judge your thoughts, yourself, your circumstances, other people, outside events. Nothing. I’ve tried it. It’s not so easy. I find it to be a very good exercise.

Then there is having a positive dialogue with yourself. Most all of us talk to ourselves. Psychologists believe that it is normal. Are you aware of the thoughts you think in your conversations with yourself? Are they positive dialogues? Let’s hope they are not opportunities to be hurtful and harmful to yourself.I know all about this negative activity of the mind. I used to be this way.

I’ve recommended meditation before. I can’t say enough about it since it can help you be more aware of your thoughts. It’s also a good practice for helping us learn how to slow down thinking and change thinking.

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Hippy Affirmation Day 18

I Radiate Positive Vibes

I Radiate Positive VibesIt’s common knowledge now that energy is catching. Like the common cold, a positive demeanor with it’s energy can be passed on to others that we interact with in our daily travels. It’s true, as well, that a negative attitude can be caught.

I choose to  call this energy that we can pass on to others our vibes (coming from the word vibrate). Starting in our core this vibration that is our energy radiates outward. It extends outward to about  1 – 3 inches from the body and is named our auric field. Your aura reflects the energy that you are currently experiencing as well as your overall psyche and emotional state. Everyone has this auric field.

When we encounter each other our power is not limited by our words and our outward appearance. We affect others by a much more subtle means – our energy that is our auric field. Having a clear intention within yourself to radiate more positive vibes can in itself change your field. There are other ways to do so which I will explore more in depth in an article to come on this site. With this intention we can go about our day with an attitude that we will not say one negative thing to people we encounter and we will try to see them in a positive light. Of course, some people will be challenging. I’ve actually found that when I attempt to be this way to everyone I am uniquely challenged by irascible people.

I challenge you to try to radiate positive vibes. You just might find that the reward within yourself is that you will feel more at peace and loving. That in itself is well worth the exercise. While the benefit to the world can not be discounted because your vibe will be catching. Who knows how far and wide it can spread?

 

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Why Do Adults Color? Should You Too?

Me Coloring With Markers

This is me finishing a page that I started with my coloring group.

I’ve been coloring all my life. I fondly remember my deluxe 64 crayon box of crayons that I oh-so-neatly put each crayon back in it’s proper place in the box’s inside sleeve after using each crayon. Another fond memory is of the exotic bird coloring book given to me by Sunshine, my hippie babysitter. I colored as an adult to alleviate boredom between incoming customer service calls when I worked at Home Shopping Network. Even though I haven’t given it much thought as to exactly why I enjoy coloring until now, it’s no surprise to me that it has become amazingly popular in the last couple of years. More and more people are realizing one thing that deep down I have known all along – coloring is good for you.

Zenspiration Do What Calls To Your Soul

From Zenspirations Inspirations coloring book done in pencils.

Adult coloring has gone mainstream and it doesn’t seem to be losing steam. Over 12 million coloring books were sold in 2015. In April 2015 a coloring book (Secret Garden – An Inky Treasure Hunt and Colouring Book by Johanna Basford) topped the best-seller list of books. Five of Amazon’s current top 15 best-selling books are coloring books. There are adult coloring clubs and Meet Ups for adults who color.

The variety of coloring books available that are aimed at the adult market is remarkable. It is surely a testament to how popular this activity has become among adults. There are coloring books based on TV Shows like A Game of Thrones and movies like Star Wars and Harry Potter . There are swearing themed coloring books (Calm the F*ck Down by Sasha O’Hara) and naughty coloring books that have pages of sexual positions (Adult Coloring Book:Sexual Positions by Spudtc publishing Ltd).

Game of Thrones Coloring Book

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There are inspirational quote coloring books (Creative Coloring Inspirations by Valentina Harper) and Bible quote coloring books (Trust In God: Inspirational Quotes from The Bible from Barnes and Noble). There is even a coloring book based on a YouTube cat (Grumpy Cat Coloring Bookand a Steampunk themed coloring book (Steampunk Devices Coloring Book by Jeremy Elder).

Even though the adult coloring book market has exploded and it seems like just about every theme that you can think of is available, only a handful of themes are being snapped off of the shelves and the internet. These most popular coloring books are animal designs, mandalas, calming, stress relieving, nature, and abstract patterns.

Calm The F*ck Down Coloring Book

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So what is it about coloring that is enjoyable? For me, I find that I like how it feels to focus on laying the color down on the page as I fill in the shapes. I also enjoy seeing the color combinations I choose to fill in the entire design. I feel satisfied when I complete coloring a design. The coloring activity itself is like a meditation. I focus on filling in the design with color and my mind lets go of it’s worries. Since it usually takes a few sessions of coloring to finish coloring in a design, I learn patience. When it is all done I can look at the finished product and enjoy it over and over again.

The enjoyment of coloring could be connected to the color itself. Each color affects mood.” Colour is energy and the fact that it has a physical effect on us has been proved time and again in experiments – most notably when blind people were asked to identify colours with their fingertips and were all able to do so easily. The shorter the wavelength, the stronger the underlying physical effect (Angela Wright – http://www.colour-affects.co.uk/how-it-works). This is why people are often careful about what colors they use to paint rooms in their houses.

Grumpy Cat Coloring Book

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The following is a list of colors and how they affect mood (http://www.colour-affects.co.uk/how-it-works).

  • Red – energizes because it stimulates us
  • Blue – calms and increases concentration
  • Yellow – lifts our spirits, creates confidence and optimism
  • Green – promotes balance and harmony
  • Violet – encourages deep contemplation and meditation
  • Orange – focuses our minds on comfort, sensuality and fun
  • Pink – nurtures and physically soothes
  • Grey – suppresses  and causes us to  instinctively draw in
  • Brown – warms, supports and connects us to earth
  • Black – promotes security and emotional safety
  • White – purifies and cleanses
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Studying colour psychology, Angela Wright recognized that there are no wrong colours. It is the combination of colours that triggers the response. You could have a grey sky on a summer day, but our reaction to that grey with the beautiful colours of the summer landscape would be different from the combination of a grey sky with a predominantly snow white scene. We do not respond to just one colour, but to colours in combination. Even the winter landscape contains many colours. This could very well explain why I choose certain colors to color in each of the designs that I color.

What has sparked the growth in popularity of adult coloring? According to Adrienne Raphel (Why Adults Are Buying Coloring Books {For Themselves} The New Yorker July 12,2015), it is due somewhat to social media. Colorists post their finished colorings to Facebook and Pinterest, garnering fans and offering pro tips on things like Prismacolor versus gel pens. It is also due to a craving for childhood objects and experiences. This “Peter-Pan market” is also a target for children’s and young adult books, . This leads me to think that it is our inner child that is reaching out to be stimulated. Our world has become too grown-up. We harken back to simpler days and times when a coloring book and some crayons were our occupation instead of bills, taxes and domestic chores.

Zenspiration Live Love Laugh

From Zenspirations Inspirations coloring book done in markers and pencils.

How is coloring good for you? According to clinical psychologist Ben Michaelis, coloring is a stress-free activity that relaxes the amygdala – the fear center of the brain – and allows your mind to get the rest it needs. We de-stress when we color because of our focus on the activity and not on our worries. Coloring also “brings out our imagination and takes us back to our childhood, a period in which we most certainly had a lot less stress,” says psychologist Gloria Martinez Ayala. She goes on to say that when coloring we activate different areas of our two cerebral hemispheres. “The action involves both logic, by which we color forms, and creativity, when mixing and matching colors. This incorporates the areas of the cerebral cortex involved in vision and fine motor skills [coordination necessary to make small, precise movements].”

More evidence that coloring is good for you:

  1. helps dementia and alzheimers patients remain engaged with the outside world.
  2. can lower blood pressure
  3. trains your brain to focus better
  4. helps people deal with stress and PTSD

What are you waiting for? Give it a try. Light up your life with color and relax and de-stress at the same time. Maybe even join a coloring group to get to know some people who want to do the same.

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10 Tips to Help Stop Overthinking

10 Tips to Help Stop Overthinking

Garden gnome that I painted.

Don’t overthink it.

When I wrote “Hippy Affirmation Day 17” it was about shifting our focus out of overthinking.

Touching lightly on the subject, I suggested using mindfulness to help stop overthinking. Overthinking is defined as thinking about a subject too much or for far too long. It is analyzing, commenting and repeating the same thoughts over and again, instead of acting.

Common scenarios that cause us to overthink are:

1. A conversation we had in which we wish we had said or done something different.
2. In anticipation of a very important conversation we will be having with someone.
3. We have a decision to make that is particularly difficult (whether to quit a job, break up a relationship, move to another city, etc).
4. We have to do something we are not confident in our ability to do.

Our overthinking can also be a result of:
1. Catastrophizing the future with bad outcomes (being a “Chicken Little”).
2. Comparing ourselves to others (finding ourselves lacking).
3. Fear of having anxiety attacks or panic attacks in public.

Whatever the cause of our overthinking, there are ways to stop overthinking. These ways are not permanent. The overthinking will probably come back. With practice though we can stop it more effectively each time that it reappears. The first step is always awareness. I don’t know about any of you, but I sure don’t have a problem with this one. When I am overthinking I am very aware of it because I feel like I am going a little bit crazy. My mind is taking over and just running riot with my thoughts. I have no peace. And I just want it to stop. Trouble is that when I tell my mind to stop the thoughts the overthinking persists more, even magnifies.

I am prone to being obsessive especially in my thoughts. I don’t like it one bit. It is a part of who I am so I accept it. At this point of awareness and acceptance is the jumping off point into what can be done about it.

  1. Practice mindfulness – As discussed in the Hippy Affirmation Day 17, mindfulness is a way to shift our focus out of our thinking into the present moment of what is happening and what we are doing. For example, if you are petting your cat or dog, focus on how it feels to touch their fur, look at the colors and patterns of their fur, notice how their ears move, notice the sounds they make, etc. By doing so, the mind cannot be occupied by mind chatter, rather by the shared moment of connection with your pet.
  2. Occupy yourself with something that requires focus – This can be art (like drawing or painting), a project (like building something), a craft (like sewing or knitting), organizing something (like a drawer or closet), cleaning something, writing, reading, or learning something new. There is a wealth of knowledge out there on many subjects in books at the library and tutorial videos on the internet. An added bonus is that we keep our minds healthier when we learn something new.
  3. Get active – Do something that gets the body moving. Exercise is commonly recommended. Traditional exercise bores me so I don’t stick with it. I ballroom dance and dancewalk. During either activity, my mind is totally free of overthinking and I have so much fun. Find the activity that works best for you so that you will want to do it. Yoga and tai chi are other body moving disciplines that can be good for slowing down or stopping our thinking.
  4. Breathe – This is the least utilized tool in our toolbox of life. Just the act of learning to slow down the breathing can help to slow down our thoughts. In order for breathing to be effective when we find ourselves stuck in overthinking, we need to practice during times when we are not challenged by our runaway mind.
  5. Meditate – There are quite a few ways to meditate. I was trained in transcendental meditation so that is what I do. For some people focusing on an object like a candle flame helps them to meditate. Find out what works best for you. Keep in mind that meditation is a practice. It takes time and effort to use meditation to help stop overthinking.
  6. Work on feeling safe – Much of our overthinking is a result of us not feeling safe. We see the world as a place that can tear us down in an instant with it’s unknown circumstances waiting in the wings. Sure there are challenges that will arise and the world can feel very unsafe. The key is to realize that we can weather whatever may come. And, to not scare ourselves to death imagining the worst case scenarios. Remind yourself of the times you came through difficult challenges in your life and know that you can do it again.
  7. Work on your confidence – When we don’t have confidence in our abilities we get very fearful of making mistakes. We will make mistakes when we attempt new things. It’s only by doing these things that we gain confidence. We have to be willing to get past our fear of screwing up to get to the other side where confidence grows. I have been taking ballroom dance lessons for 18 years. I will never forget when I first started learning to dance. I was so afraid to make a mistake that I would freeze like a deer in the headlights whenever the instructor watched us. Thank goodness I stuck with it. It’s a huge source of confidence in my life now.
  8. Don’t think about what people think of you – We cannot control anyone outside of ourselves. People will think what they think. They are usually so self-focused that they aren’t even thinking about us at all. If they are judging us, it has very little to do with us. It’s their own shortcomings and misperceptions within themselves that fuels their judgmental thoughts about others. There is not one thing your thinking will do to change any of that.
  9. Use a timer to limit your time spent in overthinking – When you are trapped in overthinking set a timer (perhaps for 10 minutes). Let yourself do all the analyzing, ruminating and obsessing you need to do for that set period of time. Once the time is over, write out on a piece of paper what comes to mind. This could be quite revealing and could help you resolve a difficult situation. Then, throw the paper away and go on with your day.
  10. Have grateful thoughts – Whenever we have good thoughts about the good in life they cancel out negative thoughts about the bad in our lives. And the really cool thing about seeing the good is that we tend to see more good. Of course the opposite is true, that when we focus on the bad in our lives we see more bad. By shifting into the grateful thoughts we can enrich our life immeasurably while also nipping overthinking in the bud before it ever starts.

Psychological disorders can be at the root of overthinking. Obsessive compulsive disorder, generalized anxiety disorder, and panic disorder are some of the top culprits. Mental illness is difficult to contend with since it is inherited from our parents. Medication is usually necessary. Eating calming foods and beverages and avoiding stimulating foods and beverages is important too. Certain supplements can be taken as well. This does not mean that my suggestions will not help in the case of endogenous psychological disorders. They can definitely help. If you have a psychological disorder, you’ll need to attack your overthinking with all that I have suggested. Let me also recommend going to therapy that is focused on your thinking and getting at the root of your insecurities.

Don’t let yourself be overwhelmed by all these ideas. Take it a little at time. Sometimes we have to work on one or two things to make progress. Once those ones are integrated into our lives, we add another suggestion. It’s a process. Just like life. Nothing happens overnight. It happens in increments. Until, eventually we find that we have changed when we weren’t even aware that we were changing.

 

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Hippy Affirmation Day 17

I Shift My Focus.

I shift my focus.During a conversation with a good friend today she shared with me that she thinks that she overthinks and that that behavior causes her to get depressed. I could relate. Overthinking tends to be what gets me into trouble too. I suggested that she shift her focus whenever that happens.

I guess before I go on I should explain the meaning of overthinking. It means to think about a subject too much or for far too long. It magnifies the significance of the thought. Usually the subject is about something we worry about.  A good example is that someone you know says something that bothers you. And, even though they didn’t mean any harm, you walk around for a couple of days thinking about it. You’ve taken it personally and you can’t get your mind off of it.

Because you let it get under your skin, you run the conversation through your head trying to understand what they meant by what they said. If you notice how you are feeling, you will often see that you are churning inside and you feel pretty crappy. This kind of thinking can lead to anxiety and depression. The anxiety from overthinking is “ worry gone wild.”  The depression from overthinking is “anger gone wild.”   Either state is pretty miserable.

Shifting the focus is not easy. I must begin with that statement. Our minds are very good at doing the same thing over and over again when it comes to thinking. Plus, it’s possible that overthinking is a self-defense mechanism ingrained within us to try to help us spot threats. When we worry we feel somehow like we are preparing ourselves for what may come. Never mind, that it may never come and that we are worrying away our very lives.

I’ve been noticing that mindfulness practice is popping up in popular articles in the media. Time Magazine currently has this subject featured on the cover of it’s magazine. Mindfulness is merely a shift in focus. An easy way to practice mindfulness is to notice what you are doing in the moment that you are doing it. Say you are washing the dishes and your mind is chattering on about something. You can notice that you are stuck in your thinking then turn your thinking to the task that you are doing. You can focus on the warm water, the color and pattern of the dish, the feel of the suds, etc.

I practiced mindfulness in this way while taking down Christmas decorations yesterday. I noticed that my mind was rehearsing conversations that I wanted to have with my friend who I was helping with the decoration take down. I’m really not sure why my mind was doing that (except that maybe I wanted to impress her and I was worried about not having something interesting to talk about). Anyway, I shifted my focus to taking down the ornaments. I noticed the colors and shapes. I noticed what it was like to unwind the garland from the tree. I noticed that the garland beads were coated with a material that gave the beads an aurora borealis look. I noticed that the coating had a very unusual smell. I could go on and on. But, I won’t because I think that you get the picture.

Shifting my focus like I did brought calm. Without rehearsing my conversation the actual conversation was smooth and effortless. My friend opened up about some things to me and I felt like we connected on a new level. It was a very good experience all-in-all. The beauty of shifting our focus from our thinking to what is actually happening in the moment is that we experience that moment fully. Every moment lost to overthinking is a moment lost forever. We just can’t get back those moments.

Today, I encourage you to pay attention to your thinking. If you find yourself yammering on about things of very little significance in the grand scheme of your life, try to shift your focus. While it might not be easy, it sure is worth it.

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Hippy Affirmation Day 16

I Can Handle It.

I can handle it by Angela Star.One of the most helpful books that I have read is Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers. I have found it to be so helpful that I have read it three times. She states that underneath all our fears is the basic fear that we cannot handle what we fear – whatever it may be. I remind myself of this truth when I start to let my fears overtake me.

Worry is a companion to fear. We often use worry as a way to prepare ourselves for the thing that we fear – to help us handle it. I was speaking to a friend of mine last week about this very same thing. Her dog had to be “put to sleep”. I remembered that she was worried about this eventuality because he was old and he had a persistent cough. She was worried that he might have a tumor.  Now that the thing she was worried about came to pass, I asked her what she has learned from worrying about it. She admitted that the worry was not helpful and that it did not prepare her for his death.

I have had to handle some pretty difficult things in my life. I have survived being beaten black and blue by a babysitter and her friends, sexual molestation by a male babysitter, relentless bullying as a child, an abusive marriage, fleeing to a shelter, a divorce, two car accidents that totaled the cars, job losses, suicide attempts, a complete physical and mental breakdown, and numerous short-term mental hospital stays. I’m not listing these instances to elicit pity or to dwell on the wrongs that have been done. My point is that I find that when I feel like I cannot handle my current difficulties it is best to remind myself that I have handled much worse before. If  I have weathered much worse, why can I not handle what is happening now? I surely can.

Feel The Fear and Do It Anyway

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Everyone has difficulties that they have been through. No one gets through this life unscathed. It’s part of the whole. The thing to remember is that we can handle it. Just hold on until handling it gets less hard to do.

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Hippy Affirmation Day 15

I Let Go Of Past Resentments.

I let go of past resentments by Angela Star.I have just woken up from having a dream about something in my past that I thought I was over. Apparently, I still hold some resentment inside of me. This situation happened so long ago that I should really be over it. I can’t imagine why part of me still holds onto the anger. In my 20s I worked as a waitress at a restaurant named Shells. At first it was a good job working with people who were fair. After a time, some ladies were hired that knew some of the ladies that worked there and knew each other. They formed a clique. And one of them became head server which gave her the responsibility of assigning the stations and tables that everyone would have to work in. She didn’t particularly like me and she favored her friends.

These ladies were devious. They took every opportunity to steal tables from other servers who weren’t their friends. That’s what the dream was about. I dreamt that a couple of them swooped in and stole tables that I was supposed to wait on when I hesitated to get to them because I wasn’t quite sure if they were mine yet. I confronted one of them and told her that I knew exactly what she and her friends were doing. Then I threw down my checks and apron and quit.

In real time I never did quit because of being fed up with their behavior. I did tell the owners that the station and table assignments were not fair. They did not care. One of them even told me that I had the opportunity to be head waitress and that I turned it down. I had good reason. I turned it down because I was going to college and I didn’t want any extra stress.  That was not an appropriate response from my boss. In addition to stealing tables and assigning me poor stations they talked about me behind my back. The head server and some of them made outright demeaning comments to me. Now that I think about it, I should have quit.

I’m trying to understand why I did not look for another job then quit. I was a server for 10 years. Sometimes it was smooth and easy. Other times it was rocky and hard. Anyone who has ever been a waitress knows the hell I am talking about here (when the kitchen is running out of everything, you’re short staff, and the shift feels like it will never end). In addition to the stress that could be intense, I experienced cliques with their attitudes when I went on to work at other restaurants. In these restaurants they could not steal tables. But, they were nasty towards me. In one of the restaurants they were worse than the ladies at Shells.

Why didn’t I quit? I believe that low self-esteem and poor confidence in myself kept me in those jobs. I graduated from college with a BA yet I did not pursue a job in my field. I have no one to blame for the poor treatment but myself. I could have gotten out of those situations and applied myself. I have to let my anger toward all those people go and I have to let the anger toward myself go. I am hoping that making this statement will help me to let go. I also hope that stating this affirmation will help too. I am determined to look into other ways that I can let go of my resentments as well.

I know that I still have anger toward some people in personal relationships in my past. That is understandable, although, I do not want to hold onto those resentments either. The resentment that I still feel toward the ladies that I worked with at these restaurants surprises me. Having this dream is helpful because I am forced to examine where I am with all my resentments.

Do you have resentments toward people in your past? What will it take for you to let go of those resentments? Do you need to forgive yourself for putting up with poor treatment when you could have done something about it? I encourage you to think about this topic in depth because resentments only hurt you. The people in your past don’t give a s**t. Why should you?

 

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