Hippy Affirmation Day 18

I Radiate Positive Vibes

I Radiate Positive VibesIt’s common knowledge now that energy is catching. Like the common cold, a positive demeanor with it’s energy can be passed on to others that we interact with in our daily travels. It’s true, as well, that a negative attitude can be caught.

I choose to  call this energy that we can pass on to others our vibes (coming from the word vibrate). Starting in our core this vibration that is our energy radiates outward. It extends outward to about  1 – 3 inches from the body and is named our auric field. Your aura reflects the energy that you are currently experiencing as well as your overall psyche and emotional state. Everyone has this auric field.

When we encounter each other our power is not limited by our words and our outward appearance. We affect others by a much more subtle means – our energy that is our auric field. Having a clear intention within yourself to radiate more positive vibes can in itself change your field. There are other ways to do so which I will explore more in depth in an article to come on this site. With this intention we can go about our day with an attitude that we will not say one negative thing to people we encounter and we will try to see them in a positive light. Of course, some people will be challenging. I’ve actually found that when I attempt to be this way to everyone I am uniquely challenged by irascible people.

I challenge you to try to radiate positive vibes. You just might find that the reward within yourself is that you will feel more at peace and loving. That in itself is well worth the exercise. While the benefit to the world can not be discounted because your vibe will be catching. Who knows how far and wide it can spread?


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Why Do Adults Color? Should You Too?

Me Coloring With Markers

This is me finishing a page that I started with my coloring group.

I’ve been coloring all my life. I fondly remember my deluxe 64 crayon box of crayons that I oh-so-neatly put each crayon back in it’s proper place in the box’s inside sleeve after using each crayon. Another fond memory is of the exotic bird coloring book given to me by Sunshine, my hippie babysitter. I colored as an adult to alleviate boredom between incoming customer service calls when I worked at Home Shopping Network. Even though I haven’t given it much thought as to exactly why I enjoy coloring until now, it’s no surprise to me that it has become amazingly popular in the last couple of years. More and more people are realizing one thing that deep down I have known all along – coloring is good for you.

Zenspiration Do What Calls To Your Soul

From Zenspirations Inspirations coloring book done in pencils.

Adult coloring has gone mainstream and it doesn’t seem to be losing steam. Over 12 million coloring books were sold in 2015. In April 2015 a coloring book (Secret Garden – An Inky Treasure Hunt and Colouring Book by Johanna Basford) topped the best-seller list of books. Five of Amazon’s current top 15 best-selling books are coloring books. There are adult coloring clubs and Meet Ups for adults who color.

The variety of coloring books available that are aimed at the adult market is remarkable. It is surely a testament to how popular this activity has become among adults. There are coloring books based on TV Shows like A Game of Thrones and movies like Star Wars and Harry Potter . There are swearing themed coloring books (Calm the F*ck Down by Sasha O’Hara) and naughty coloring books that have pages of sexual positions (Adult Coloring Book:Sexual Positions by Spudtc publishing Ltd).

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There are inspirational quote coloring books (Creative Coloring Inspirations by Valentina Harper) and Bible quote coloring books (Trust In God: Inspirational Quotes from The Bible from Barnes and Noble). There is even a coloring book based on a YouTube cat (Grumpy Cat Coloring Bookand a Steampunk themed coloring book (Steampunk Devices Coloring Book by Jeremy Elder).

Even though the adult coloring book market has exploded and it seems like just about every theme that you can think of is available, only a handful of themes are being snapped off of the shelves and the internet. These most popular coloring books are animal designs, mandalas, calming, stress relieving, nature, and abstract patterns.

Calm The F*ck Down Coloring Book

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So what is it about coloring that is enjoyable? For me, I find that I like how it feels to focus on laying the color down on the page as I fill in the shapes. I also enjoy seeing the color combinations I choose to fill in the entire design. I feel satisfied when I complete coloring a design. The coloring activity itself is like a meditation. I focus on filling in the design with color and my mind lets go of it’s worries. Since it usually takes a few sessions of coloring to finish coloring in a design, I learn patience. When it is all done I can look at the finished product and enjoy it over and over again.

The enjoyment of coloring could be connected to the color itself. Each color affects mood.” Colour is energy and the fact that it has a physical effect on us has been proved time and again in experiments – most notably when blind people were asked to identify colours with their fingertips and were all able to do so easily. The shorter the wavelength, the stronger the underlying physical effect (Angela Wright – http://www.colour-affects.co.uk/how-it-works). This is why people are often careful about what colors they use to paint rooms in their houses.

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The following is a list of colors and how they affect mood (http://www.colour-affects.co.uk/how-it-works).

  • Red – energizes because it stimulates us
  • Blue – calms and increases concentration
  • Yellow – lifts our spirits, creates confidence and optimism
  • Green – promotes balance and harmony
  • Violet – encourages deep contemplation and meditation
  • Orange – focuses our minds on comfort, sensuality and fun
  • Pink – nurtures and physically soothes
  • Grey – suppresses  and causes us to  instinctively draw in
  • Brown – warms, supports and connects us to earth
  • Black – promotes security and emotional safety
  • White – purifies and cleanses
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Studying colour psychology, Angela Wright recognized that there are no wrong colours. It is the combination of colours that triggers the response. You could have a grey sky on a summer day, but our reaction to that grey with the beautiful colours of the summer landscape would be different from the combination of a grey sky with a predominantly snow white scene. We do not respond to just one colour, but to colours in combination. Even the winter landscape contains many colours. This could very well explain why I choose certain colors to color in each of the designs that I color.

What has sparked the growth in popularity of adult coloring? According to Adrienne Raphel (Why Adults Are Buying Coloring Books {For Themselves} The New Yorker July 12,2015), it is due somewhat to social media. Colorists post their finished colorings to Facebook and Pinterest, garnering fans and offering pro tips on things like Prismacolor versus gel pens. It is also due to a craving for childhood objects and experiences. This “Peter-Pan market” is also a target for children’s and young adult books, . This leads me to think that it is our inner child that is reaching out to be stimulated. Our world has become too grown-up. We harken back to simpler days and times when a coloring book and some crayons were our occupation instead of bills, taxes and domestic chores.

Zenspiration Live Love Laugh

From Zenspirations Inspirations coloring book done in markers and pencils.

How is coloring good for you? According to clinical psychologist Ben Michaelis, coloring is a stress-free activity that relaxes the amygdala – the fear center of the brain – and allows your mind to get the rest it needs. We de-stress when we color because of our focus on the activity and not on our worries. Coloring also “brings out our imagination and takes us back to our childhood, a period in which we most certainly had a lot less stress,” says psychologist Gloria Martinez Ayala. She goes on to say that when coloring we activate different areas of our two cerebral hemispheres. “The action involves both logic, by which we color forms, and creativity, when mixing and matching colors. This incorporates the areas of the cerebral cortex involved in vision and fine motor skills [coordination necessary to make small, precise movements].”

More evidence that coloring is good for you:

  1. helps dementia and alzheimers patients remain engaged with the outside world.
  2. can lower blood pressure
  3. trains your brain to focus better
  4. helps people deal with stress and PTSD

What are you waiting for? Give it a try. Light up your life with color and relax and de-stress at the same time. Maybe even join a coloring group to get to know some people who want to do the same.

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10 Tips to Help Stop Overthinking

10 Tips to Help Stop Overthinking

Garden gnome that I painted.

Don’t overthink it.

When I wrote “Hippy Affirmation Day 17” it was about shifting our focus out of overthinking.

Touching lightly on the subject, I suggested using mindfulness to help stop overthinking. Overthinking is defined as thinking about a subject too much or for far too long. It is analyzing, commenting and repeating the same thoughts over and again, instead of acting.

Common scenarios that cause us to overthink are:

1. A conversation we had in which we wish we had said or done something different.
2. In anticipation of a very important conversation we will be having with someone.
3. We have a decision to make that is particularly difficult (whether to quit a job, break up a relationship, move to another city, etc).
4. We have to do something we are not confident in our ability to do.

Our overthinking can also be a result of:
1. Catastrophizing the future with bad outcomes (being a “Chicken Little”).
2. Comparing ourselves to others (finding ourselves lacking).
3. Fear of having anxiety attacks or panic attacks in public.

Whatever the cause of our overthinking, there are ways to stop overthinking. These ways are not permanent. The overthinking will probably come back. With practice though we can stop it more effectively each time that it reappears. The first step is always awareness. I don’t know about any of you, but I sure don’t have a problem with this one. When I am overthinking I am very aware of it because I feel like I am going a little bit crazy. My mind is taking over and just running riot with my thoughts. I have no peace. And I just want it to stop. Trouble is that when I tell my mind to stop the thoughts the overthinking persists more, even magnifies.

I am prone to being obsessive especially in my thoughts. I don’t like it one bit. It is a part of who I am so I accept it. At this point of awareness and acceptance is the jumping off point into what can be done about it.

  1. Practice mindfulness – As discussed in the Hippy Affirmation Day 17, mindfulness is a way to shift our focus out of our thinking into the present moment of what is happening and what we are doing. For example, if you are petting your cat or dog, focus on how it feels to touch their fur, look at the colors and patterns of their fur, notice how their ears move, notice the sounds they make, etc. By doing so, the mind cannot be occupied by mind chatter, rather by the shared moment of connection with your pet.
  2. Occupy yourself with something that requires focus – This can be art (like drawing or painting), a project (like building something), a craft (like sewing or knitting), organizing something (like a drawer or closet), cleaning something, writing, reading, or learning something new. There is a wealth of knowledge out there on many subjects in books at the library and tutorial videos on the internet. An added bonus is that we keep our minds healthier when we learn something new.
  3. Get active – Do something that gets the body moving. Exercise is commonly recommended. Traditional exercise bores me so I don’t stick with it. I ballroom dance and dancewalk. During either activity, my mind is totally free of overthinking and I have so much fun. Find the activity that works best for you so that you will want to do it. Yoga and tai chi are other body moving disciplines that can be good for slowing down or stopping our thinking.
  4. Breathe – This is the least utilized tool in our toolbox of life. Just the act of learning to slow down the breathing can help to slow down our thoughts. In order for breathing to be effective when we find ourselves stuck in overthinking, we need to practice during times when we are not challenged by our runaway mind.
  5. Meditate – There are quite a few ways to meditate. I was trained in transcendental meditation so that is what I do. For some people focusing on an object like a candle flame helps them to meditate. Find out what works best for you. Keep in mind that meditation is a practice. It takes time and effort to use meditation to help stop overthinking.
  6. Work on feeling safe – Much of our overthinking is a result of us not feeling safe. We see the world as a place that can tear us down in an instant with it’s unknown circumstances waiting in the wings. Sure there are challenges that will arise and the world can feel very unsafe. The key is to realize that we can weather whatever may come. And, to not scare ourselves to death imagining the worst case scenarios. Remind yourself of the times you came through difficult challenges in your life and know that you can do it again.
  7. Work on your confidence – When we don’t have confidence in our abilities we get very fearful of making mistakes. We will make mistakes when we attempt new things. It’s only by doing these things that we gain confidence. We have to be willing to get past our fear of screwing up to get to the other side where confidence grows. I have been taking ballroom dance lessons for 18 years. I will never forget when I first started learning to dance. I was so afraid to make a mistake that I would freeze like a deer in the headlights whenever the instructor watched us. Thank goodness I stuck with it. It’s a huge source of confidence in my life now.
  8. Don’t think about what people think of you – We cannot control anyone outside of ourselves. People will think what they think. They are usually so self-focused that they aren’t even thinking about us at all. If they are judging us, it has very little to do with us. It’s their own shortcomings and misperceptions within themselves that fuels their judgmental thoughts about others. There is not one thing your thinking will do to change any of that.
  9. Use a timer to limit your time spent in overthinking – When you are trapped in overthinking set a timer (perhaps for 10 minutes). Let yourself do all the analyzing, ruminating and obsessing you need to do for that set period of time. Once the time is over, write out on a piece of paper what comes to mind. This could be quite revealing and could help you resolve a difficult situation. Then, throw the paper away and go on with your day.
  10. Have grateful thoughts – Whenever we have good thoughts about the good in life they cancel out negative thoughts about the bad in our lives. And the really cool thing about seeing the good is that we tend to see more good. Of course the opposite is true, that when we focus on the bad in our lives we see more bad. By shifting into the grateful thoughts we can enrich our life immeasurably while also nipping overthinking in the bud before it ever starts.

Psychological disorders can be at the root of overthinking. Obsessive compulsive disorder, generalized anxiety disorder, and panic disorder are some of the top culprits. Mental illness is difficult to contend with since it is inherited from our parents. Medication is usually necessary. Eating calming foods and beverages and avoiding stimulating foods and beverages is important too. Certain supplements can be taken as well. This does not mean that my suggestions will not help in the case of endogenous psychological disorders. They can definitely help. If you have a psychological disorder, you’ll need to attack your overthinking with all that I have suggested. Let me also recommend going to therapy that is focused on your thinking and getting at the root of your insecurities.

Don’t let yourself be overwhelmed by all these ideas. Take it a little at time. Sometimes we have to work on one or two things to make progress. Once those ones are integrated into our lives, we add another suggestion. It’s a process. Just like life. Nothing happens overnight. It happens in increments. Until, eventually we find that we have changed when we weren’t even aware that we were changing.


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Hippy Affirmation Day 17

I Shift My Focus.

I shift my focus.During a conversation with a good friend today she shared with me that she thinks that she overthinks and that that behavior causes her to get depressed. I could relate. Overthinking tends to be what gets me into trouble too. I suggested that she shift her focus whenever that happens.

I guess before I go on I should explain the meaning of overthinking. It means to think about a subject too much or for far too long. It magnifies the significance of the thought. Usually the subject is about something we worry about.  A good example is that someone you know says something that bothers you. And, even though they didn’t mean any harm, you walk around for a couple of days thinking about it. You’ve taken it personally and you can’t get your mind off of it.

Because you let it get under your skin, you run the conversation through your head trying to understand what they meant by what they said. If you notice how you are feeling, you will often see that you are churning inside and you feel pretty crappy. This kind of thinking can lead to anxiety and depression. The anxiety from overthinking is “ worry gone wild.”  The depression from overthinking is “anger gone wild.”   Either state is pretty miserable.

Shifting the focus is not easy. I must begin with that statement. Our minds are very good at doing the same thing over and over again when it comes to thinking. Plus, it’s possible that overthinking is a self-defense mechanism ingrained within us to try to help us spot threats. When we worry we feel somehow like we are preparing ourselves for what may come. Never mind, that it may never come and that we are worrying away our very lives.

I’ve been noticing that mindfulness practice is popping up in popular articles in the media. Time Magazine currently has this subject featured on the cover of it’s magazine. Mindfulness is merely a shift in focus. An easy way to practice mindfulness is to notice what you are doing in the moment that you are doing it. Say you are washing the dishes and your mind is chattering on about something. You can notice that you are stuck in your thinking then turn your thinking to the task that you are doing. You can focus on the warm water, the color and pattern of the dish, the feel of the suds, etc.

I practiced mindfulness in this way while taking down Christmas decorations yesterday. I noticed that my mind was rehearsing conversations that I wanted to have with my friend who I was helping with the decoration take down. I’m really not sure why my mind was doing that (except that maybe I wanted to impress her and I was worried about not having something interesting to talk about). Anyway, I shifted my focus to taking down the ornaments. I noticed the colors and shapes. I noticed what it was like to unwind the garland from the tree. I noticed that the garland beads were coated with a material that gave the beads an aurora borealis look. I noticed that the coating had a very unusual smell. I could go on and on. But, I won’t because I think that you get the picture.

Shifting my focus like I did brought calm. Without rehearsing my conversation the actual conversation was smooth and effortless. My friend opened up about some things to me and I felt like we connected on a new level. It was a very good experience all-in-all. The beauty of shifting our focus from our thinking to what is actually happening in the moment is that we experience that moment fully. Every moment lost to overthinking is a moment lost forever. We just can’t get back those moments.

Today, I encourage you to pay attention to your thinking. If you find yourself yammering on about things of very little significance in the grand scheme of your life, try to shift your focus. While it might not be easy, it sure is worth it.

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Hippy Affirmation Day 16

I Can Handle It.

I can handle it by Angela Star.One of the most helpful books that I have read is Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers. I have found it to be so helpful that I have read it three times. She states that underneath all our fears is the basic fear that we cannot handle what we fear – whatever it may be. I remind myself of this truth when I start to let my fears overtake me.

Worry is a companion to fear. We often use worry as a way to prepare ourselves for the thing that we fear – to help us handle it. I was speaking to a friend of mine last week about this very same thing. Her dog had to be “put to sleep”. I remembered that she was worried about this eventuality because he was old and he had a persistent cough. She was worried that he might have a tumor.  Now that the thing she was worried about came to pass, I asked her what she has learned from worrying about it. She admitted that the worry was not helpful and that it did not prepare her for his death.

I have had to handle some pretty difficult things in my life. I have survived being beaten black and blue by a babysitter and her friends, sexual molestation by a male babysitter, relentless bullying as a child, an abusive marriage, fleeing to a shelter, a divorce, two car accidents that totaled the cars, job losses, suicide attempts, a complete physical and mental breakdown, and numerous short-term mental hospital stays. I’m not listing these instances to elicit pity or to dwell on the wrongs that have been done. My point is that I find that when I feel like I cannot handle my current difficulties it is best to remind myself that I have handled much worse before. If  I have weathered much worse, why can I not handle what is happening now? I surely can.

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Everyone has difficulties that they have been through. No one gets through this life unscathed. It’s part of the whole. The thing to remember is that we can handle it. Just hold on until handling it gets less hard to do.

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Hippy Affirmation Day 15

I Let Go Of Past Resentments.

I let go of past resentments by Angela Star.I have just woken up from having a dream about something in my past that I thought I was over. Apparently, I still hold some resentment inside of me. This situation happened so long ago that I should really be over it. I can’t imagine why part of me still holds onto the anger. In my 20s I worked as a waitress at a restaurant named Shells. At first it was a good job working with people who were fair. After a time, some ladies were hired that knew some of the ladies that worked there and knew each other. They formed a clique. And one of them became head server which gave her the responsibility of assigning the stations and tables that everyone would have to work in. She didn’t particularly like me and she favored her friends.

These ladies were devious. They took every opportunity to steal tables from other servers who weren’t their friends. That’s what the dream was about. I dreamt that a couple of them swooped in and stole tables that I was supposed to wait on when I hesitated to get to them because I wasn’t quite sure if they were mine yet. I confronted one of them and told her that I knew exactly what she and her friends were doing. Then I threw down my checks and apron and quit.

In real time I never did quit because of being fed up with their behavior. I did tell the owners that the station and table assignments were not fair. They did not care. One of them even told me that I had the opportunity to be head waitress and that I turned it down. I had good reason. I turned it down because I was going to college and I didn’t want any extra stress.  That was not an appropriate response from my boss. In addition to stealing tables and assigning me poor stations they talked about me behind my back. The head server and some of them made outright demeaning comments to me. Now that I think about it, I should have quit.

I’m trying to understand why I did not look for another job then quit. I was a server for 10 years. Sometimes it was smooth and easy. Other times it was rocky and hard. Anyone who has ever been a waitress knows the hell I am talking about here (when the kitchen is running out of everything, you’re short staff, and the shift feels like it will never end). In addition to the stress that could be intense, I experienced cliques with their attitudes when I went on to work at other restaurants. In these restaurants they could not steal tables. But, they were nasty towards me. In one of the restaurants they were worse than the ladies at Shells.

Why didn’t I quit? I believe that low self-esteem and poor confidence in myself kept me in those jobs. I graduated from college with a BA yet I did not pursue a job in my field. I have no one to blame for the poor treatment but myself. I could have gotten out of those situations and applied myself. I have to let my anger toward all those people go and I have to let the anger toward myself go. I am hoping that making this statement will help me to let go. I also hope that stating this affirmation will help too. I am determined to look into other ways that I can let go of my resentments as well.

I know that I still have anger toward some people in personal relationships in my past. That is understandable, although, I do not want to hold onto those resentments either. The resentment that I still feel toward the ladies that I worked with at these restaurants surprises me. Having this dream is helpful because I am forced to examine where I am with all my resentments.

Do you have resentments toward people in your past? What will it take for you to let go of those resentments? Do you need to forgive yourself for putting up with poor treatment when you could have done something about it? I encourage you to think about this topic in depth because resentments only hurt you. The people in your past don’t give a s**t. Why should you?


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More On Affirmations

More On Affirmations

The white light of heaven shining through the dark clouds.

Since I wrote the article “A Conversation on Affirmations” I have thought more on this subject and I feel that it is necessary to talk more about affirmations and their purpose. This is especially important since I have a series of hippy affirmations that I regularly post.

My introduction to affirmations came through reading the book, You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay. That was quite awhile ago (sometime in the late eighties). According to Louise Hay, any statement that we make is an affirmation. This includes every word we speak and every thought that we think. Doing affirmations is consciously choosing to make positive statements with the purpose of improving our life. We want to open up the channels in our own consciousness to create the effect that we want in our life.

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If we walk around all day thinking and saying negative things that is the effect that we will cause. It’s a much better idea to make positive statements about what we want ourselves and our life to be. Our subconscious mind is aware of our thinking and will obey our directives. The book goes on to quote best-selling author Dr. Bernie Siegel, “affirmations are not a denial of the present, but a hope for the future. As you allow them to permeate your consciousness, they will become more and more believable until eventually they may become real to you.”

Affirmations are tricky. Upon first practice they do not seem believable or real. This is especially true if you are trying to affirm something that you do not already believe deep down inside of yourself. For example, people rarely love themselves completely. There is usually some judgement or criticism within. Some people are so hard on themselves that they cannot even imagine speaking an affirmation such as, “I am perfect just the way that I am.” I found this inability to be able to accept affirmations that I just didn’t believe yet to be a roadblock to practicing affirmations. I had to persist. I had to keep doing them. But, I also had to do other things to help myself get over that roadblock. I had to go to therapy, meditate and do things that gave me confidence.

I also needed to listen to people who saw me differently than I saw myself. My friends and associates kept telling me that I had many talents. They kept telling me that I was fun to be around and that they really liked me. Why should I not believe them if I was being genuinely myself when I was around them? I am fortunate that I don’t feel as uncomfortable now when I do affirmations that are positive about myself. I’ve grown. I’ve overcome a lot of feelings of not being good enough. I admit that I still have some feelings of not being good enough. I’m learning to how to deal with that and I hope to eventually overcome it.

Buddhists practice right thought (right mindfulness) and right speech. It is part of the basis of Buddhism – The Noble Eightfold Path to Enlightenment. This path also includes right view, right resolve, right conduct, right livelihood, right effort, and right “samadhi” (meditative absorption or union). Right thought (mindfulness) means never being unconscious in mind so that you are aware of the present and what you are doing at all times. Right speech means no lying, no rude speech, no telling one person what another says about him. Positive affirmation is essentially right thought and right speech. 

A positive affirmation needs to have right thought as a component. When we go unconscious with our thoughts we often think obsessively. This thinking trap takes us out of the present awareness. We are not practicing right mindfulness by it’s definition. A positive affirmation also needs to have right speech as a component. Which means that the words used are pure in intent and in no way meant to cause harm.

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Don Miguel Ruiz wrote a book called The Four Agreements. There are four agreements that we can make everyday that are life guidelines for conducting ourselves in a positive way. One of them is, “Be impeccable with your words.”

His recommendations for doing so are:

  1. Speak with integrity.
  2. Say only what you mean.
  3. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others.
  4. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

To me, this is just another way of using right speech that Buddhism promotes and it falls in line with what I have been saying about doing positive affirmations. It is not essential to be a Buddhist to practice using affirmations. It’s also not necessary to follow the ideas of Don Miguel Ruiz. These are just extras that can help you deepen your understanding of speaking in the positive.

It’s interesting to me that this fundamental thinking about how we use our words is promoted in many different ways by many different people. It’s even inherent in The Ten Commandments with the commandment to not bear false witness against your neighbor. And to not take the Lord’s name in vain. These commandments do not include our speech to ourselves but they do illustrate the importance of right speech.

Beginning with monitoring our words that we use every day when we speak to others and to ourselves while adding the practice of affirmations we can go a long way in changing the course of how our life goes for the better.


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Hippy Affirmation Day 14

I Dedicate To Meditate

I dedicate to meditate by Angela Star.One of the best things that my mother ever did for me was to have me trained in transcendental meditation (TM). I was very young at the time. I think she did it because I was plagued with allergies and she thought that meditation would help alleviate them. All that I remember about my training was that I walked around a table many times.

Over the course of my life I have meditated off and on. Thanks to mom again, I retrained in TM when I was 18 years of age. About seven years ago I found out that my TM teacher was in the same city as I lived, Tampa. He gave me my mantra again and re-instructed me in the practice. For a time I was participating in TM with other meditators at his center. I no longer live there or practice with other meditators.

I like to meditate best while soaking in a bathtub in the dark – sometimes with a candle burning. I only have a shower right now so that is not a possibility at this time. I know that I don’t need to meditate in a tub – that I can meditate anywhere. What happens when I begin to meditate is that thoughts crowd my brain. As I continue to meditate I am able to get to a place where the thoughts stop. In this place I experience a deep calm and peace like I have never known in any other situation in life. I see purple smoke that moves in swirls in the blackness of my vision. It is the best place I have ever known to exist. I often wonder why I don’t meditate regularly considering that I can be in such a wonderful place when I do meditate.

I know that the benefits of meditation are amazing. The following benefits are listed on the official transcendental meditation site (http://www.tm.org/benefits-of-meditation):

  1. greater inner calm throughout the day
  2. reduced cortisol (the “stress” hormone)
  3. normalized blood pressure
  4. reduced insomnia
  5. lower risk of heart attack and stroke
  6. reduced anxiety and depression
  7. improved brain function and memory

This is a list of only a small portion of the wide range of benefits of meditation. I hope that this information has sparked your interest in meditation. I encourage you to give some kind of meditation a try. And to stick with it for awhile because it takes practice to train your brain to slow down and let the thoughts go. It can be frustrating but it is well worth the effort. Here are two things that I want to share that help me when I practice meditation. Do not meditate when you are tired. You’ll probably just fall asleep. Do not lay down to meditate. You’ll be almost guaranteed to go to sleep.

So, I am dedicating myself to practicing transcendental meditation every day for twenty minutes. That can’t be too hard to accomplish. All I have to do is give up some TV time. I watch more TV than I really need to watch anyway. I’ll bet that you can find a way to fit it into your life too.

Enjoy your meditation journeys as I plan to enjoy mine as well.


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Hippy Affirmation Day 13

Kindness Is My Motto.

Kindness is my motto by Angela Star.Kindness is ultimately the strongest force available to each of us. It is my motto for life. Where force causes pain kindness causes relief of pain. Kindness requires a softening. This softening can be a difficult thing to do. Yet it can be greatly rewarding.  I have discovered that when I feel unkind I am experiencing a hardening of my heart. In turn, if I am insightful enough I can know that I am experiencing some anger that has fear as its basis.

Recently I read an excellent article in the magazine The Sun (July 2014 Issue 463 The One You’re With – Barbara Frederickson on Why We Should Rethink Love with Angela Winter as interviewer). The article was about positive resonance. Psychologist Barbara Fredrickson claims that “love blossoms virtually anytime two or more people…connect over a shared positive emotion.” This experience of shared positive emotion can be between partners, parents and children, or total strangers. It can be unlimited over the span of all our relationships.

I believe that this positive resonance – shared positive emotion – can only arise out of kindness. When I am unkind I am unable to be available for this experience. As I stated in the first paragraph, my unkindness usually arises out of fear. What is my fear? Do I feel threatened? Where does the threat originate? Does it relate to a deep fear that I have that comes from something that happened to me in the past?  Is the threat real or imagined? Questioning myself in this way can help me gain an insight that can help me to move past the fear and soften.

There is more to this positive resonance that I can elucidate on in more depth. I will be posting an article that does just that on this site. At this point I want to encourage you to go through this process of introspection. I believe that we all want to experience deeper connection through being more loving and kind.

Once you have discovered how to soften yourself by removing blocks to acting in a loving way, I encourage you to also make some attempts to be kind. In our everyday lives, kindness can be given with just a smile to someone we pass on the street.  We could let the person behind us in line who has one grocery item go before us when we have a full cart of items. We could consider someone we know in need and ask them if there is anything we can do for them. There are many ways to be kind. Who knows? Maybe your kindness may spread because the person you were kind to will be kind to someone else. Isn’t that a good reason to be kind?

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Hippy Affirmation Day 12

I Can Be Spontaneous.

I can be spontaneous by Angela Star.Last Saturday after the Holiday Ball at Downtown Dance Studio (the dance studio that we go to) I noticed The Book Rack. This Book Rack is an establishment with the same name and is in the same place as the bookstore that used to be there. I was curious. I wanted to check it out. I wasn’t sure if my boyfriend would go for it. I took a chance and asked him to check it out with me.

He was interested. This new Book Rack is a place that stocks just about any kind of craft beer that you’ve ever heard of and lots that you may have not heard of. There was contemporary swing music playing. They had board games to play. No one was in there except for the girl employee who was reading a book. It didn’t seem like a happening place. Yet, something inside of me felt like it could be a fun experience to hang out there.

I picked out my favorite game (Scrabble). Then, it occurred to me that it would be more fun to play with three rather than two. Plus, I thought that she might enjoy participating too. Someone I knew from the local playhouse mosied on in for a spell. He wore a Dave Chapelle t-shirt and we had a humorous conversation about whether he looked like Dave Chapelle or not. He said that the game was stressing him out. We all laughed because he wasn’t even playing the game. We had such a fun time. By the way, I lost the game. Seems to be how it goes lately.

It’s spontaneous experiences like this one that I get a kick out of. I look back and remember that time with fondness. And, I am encouraged to incorporate more of them into my life as I remember these kinds of times.

Have you passed up some experiences in your life that required spontaneity? Take a chance on spontaneity some time. It could be a whole lot of fun.

P.S. If you are wondering why I used a turtle for my image, I’ll tell you. Turtles would seem to be anything but spontaneous because they move slow. I used the image not because of what the turtle symbolizes. Like many images of this type I just happen to come across the subject and I take the picture. To me this illustrates spontaneity beautifully because when I take these types of pictures I am being spontaneous by taking advantage of the moment to really see what is around me.

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