I train my mind to see the positive in people.
I’d like to take credit for this affirmative idea. I can’t because I found it in the book The Friendship Factor by Alan Loy McGinnis. I luckily happened upon this book at a thrift store and at the cost of only 50 cents. It’s a book with lots of valuable advice that I am glad to keep in my library to refer to over and over again.
I could do an extensive article on the book’s ideas. For now, I just want to concentrate on just this one. I’m not sure if it is natural to see the faults or shortcomings in people before we see the positives. It would seem so, perhaps as a way to protect ourselves from anything that comes our way that may be threatening.
The trouble with focusing on the negative about people is that the negative begins to be all that we see. We may even start to focus solely on our own faults and shortcomings (not just those of other people). Focusing on the positive is more productive. Training our mind to look for the positive in people does not overlook bad treatment or poor behavior. It just helps us to tend to not take what people do or say personally. It helps us to develop distance as an observer. A big bonus is that we are training our minds to be in a more positive frame overall.
Training our minds to see the positive in people, as well as ourselves, frees us up. It takes a weight off of us. It helps us to give them and us the “benefit of the doubt”. Try it. You’ll see. Life will seem less burdensome and less of a trial. You’ll feel more light-hearted. Isn’t that what we all are seeking – to go through our days feeling lighter and happier?