Binaural beats have many positive benefits that have made them a hot topic lately.
If you’re just now hearing about binaural beats and are curious about trying them, this information will be of great use to you in making a decision.
What exactly are binaural beats?
Binaural beats are brainwave entrainment/ synchronization. This basically means that sound at one frequency plays in one ear while sound at another frequency plays in the other ear. This encourages brainwaves to align to the frequency of a given beat.
Why is this process helpful?
The bi beats, as I like to call them, cause the brain to enter a specific state. These states can benefit us in a good number of positive ways.
How do you listen to binaural beats?
Listening to binaural beats is easy. All that you need is a cell phone with the YouTube app or a binaural beats app downloaded onto it and headphones or earphones. It is necessary to listen with headphones to recieve the benefits using this therapy. A comfortable place to sit or lie down is also necessary. On YouTube or other app you can choose from many binaural beats videos for various lengths of time and various types designed to help with sleep, depression, anxiety, meditation, post-traumatic stress disorder, self-connection, etc.
I highly recommend listening to binaural beats and these are the reasons why.
1 – To promote relaxation by lowering stress and anxiety
2 – To increase focus and concentration
3 – To create positive moods
4 – To promote creativity
5 – To help with sleep and pain
Considering these awesome benefits who wouldn’t want to try binaural beats? Do you? If you do, let me know what you thought of the experience in the comments below.
I am entitled to a “Voice”.
What does it mean to have a “Voice”? I suppose that it means something different to everyone. I certainly can’t say what it means to others. For me to be able to describe what it means to me, I need to talk about a recent situation in which my tongue was tied up in knots (like the fellow in the illustration) when I was trying to say what I wanted to say to a friend of mine. In the situation, I felt like my boundaries were not being honored and that when I tried to assert myself verbally I was not being allowed to speak. In fact, I was cut off by my friend. I told her to “let me finish”. That was not allowed either.
It seems as if her point of view was more important to her than my need to be heard. I was hurt. I was even quite surprised. We have been friends for a very long time and I believed that she held me in high regard. Her actions told me a different story. I have come to understand that “actions speak louder than words”. It’s taken me a long time to assimilate this knowledge and use it in my life. I tended to let people convince me of just about anything that they would say. People can say what they want to say while their actions may not reflect the words that come out of their mouths. This incongruency probably isn’t intentional. But, it is very necessary to see what is happening if you want to maintain your own sense of self in the company of people with strong personalities and strong views.
Was this belief that she did not respect me a real assessment or a figment of my imagination? I don’t know. I do know that I was willing to believe that it was a real assessment. It’s only natural to want to believe that your friends respect you and your beliefs. We want to think that our friends have our best interests at heart and that they want to support us. It’s possible that in their minds they do have our best interests at heart and that they are supporting us. Regardless of whether this is true in their minds, everyone has a right to be heard by people close to them. Once we state what we want to say, if we request their advice then advice can be given. Too often, people rush to give advice when it is not requested. That’s another matter for discussion.
As long as it is respectful and truthful, state your opinion. I do caution that like the people who do not let you have a Voice”, it is easy to fall into the trap of asserting your own beliefs without respecting the beliefs of others. We can be too forceful and close-minded due to a perceived need to be right and have someone agree with us. In other words, we expect people to not challenge our own opinions. I have been working on that error in judgement and action myself. Just remember not to let anyone silence you when it is a very personal boundary that needs to be drawn. You have the right to your personal boundaries and you have a right to be heard.
Spreading positivity is self-care.
Why is spreading positivity self-care? Spreading positivity does good things to us as a result of doing it. It reinforces a positive attitude through practice. While being negative reinforces a negative attitude and feeling miserable.
Spreading positivity gives us the warm fuzzies. This good feeling boosts the immune system and increases neurochemicals that bring up our mood. Science has proven that the neurochemicals dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin, and endorphins make us happy. One could call them the “happiness formula”.
Spreading positivity connects us to others. When we speak and act in a negative way, we push other people away from us. Most people would rather be around positive people because it helps them to feel good too. Spreading positivity connects us to others, as well, because it shows that in some small way we care. Sometimes, it’s the one thing in a tough day that makes the day better for someone else.
Spreading positivity builds support. The more supportive we are of others the more likely they will be supportive of us. On an emotional level we could all use more support.
Some unintentional results of spreading positivity are that it creates a positive jolt of energy and people tend to pass it on to others. Have you ever noticed that you feel drained around people who are downers while spending time with people who are positive energizes you? That’s because attitudes are just as catching as a cold or virus. Like the principle of paying it forward, people pass on the good energy to other people. Or they can pass on negative energy. It works both ways.
If you’re not in the habit of spreading positivity, try making a small gesture. It could be so small as complimenting someone that you meet during your day. Or it could be bigger like buying a homeless person who is hungry a sandwich. Whatever it is, it will build you up while also building up someone else. And anything we do to build ourselves up helps us to feel better which is the goal of self-care. Practice this activity as often as possible to make it a habit that will bring such great feelings in yourself that you will want to do it over and over again.
Find the thing that you love and do it as much as possible.
I love a lot of things. Of all the things I love there is nothing I love more than dancing. And when the music moves me, I dance. It usually doesn’t matter where I am. I’ve danced while standing in line at the grocery store. I’ve stopped my car to get out and dance around the car with a friend to “When Doves Cry” by Prince. I’ve danced “naked in my living room” as Alanis Morrisette recommends in the song “You Learn”.
Besides dancing by myself, I dance with a partner as a ballroom dancer. I have been doing this for 18 years. Ballroom dance adds socialization and mental exercise to the physical exercise. Plus, I get the opportunity to wear beautiful outfits and dresses. I love that! I met my loving husband at the dance studio. I love that! The people at the dance studio have been my support and my family. It is the most positive social group that I have ever experienced. I love that! Another type of dance that I really enjoy is line dancing. I don’t do it much now though. Perhaps I will find a way to get that into my life too.
Just Dance on the Wii game console is what I do every day for overall fitness. I really hate to exercise. It is so boring and repetitive. Thank goodness for Just Dance. I have Just Dance 1 – 4 and 2014 – 2017. I plan on gifting myself 2018 for Christmas unless I can convince my husband to gift it to me.
If I couldn’t dance I’d be really depressed. For mostly financial reasons I couldn’t take dance lessons for a few years. I held onto the hope that I’d be able to do it again in the future. As time marched on and I continued to recover my life that hope became reality. I am so thankful that that is true today.
I plan to keep on dancing as much as possible for as longs as possible. What thing do you love so much that you want to do it as much as possible? I strongly believe that finding every opportunity to do that thing that you love every day of your life is essential to a happy life. Try it. You might find what I believe to be true.
I walk towards people who treat me like I am a “someone”. I walk away from people who treat me like a “something”.
This is not so easy to do. It takes time and practice to understand how we are being treated by people. Learning to be more observant is fundamental. Here’s some tips for making the distinction between being treated like a “someone” or a “something”.
Are they really listening to you? Some people are monologists. They talk at you not to you. They drone on and on while not giving you a chance to have an “in” for the conversation (if we can even call it a conversation). Some people are waiting to jump in to talk just to add their opinion or just to be able to participate in the conversation. Then, there are people who want to be argumentative and/or opinionated no matter what you have to say. People who respond with a shrug, a grunt or some other non-direct way are probably just not listening to you at all.
Are they paying attention to you? Are they looking at you? Are they giving you verbal responses? When someone’s attention is somewhere else these days it’s usually on a media device like a TV, a computer, a cell phone or a tablet. These distractions surely don’t foster connection on a physical level. You can be sure that someone has not got your attention when they are wrapped up in their media.
Are they trying to control you? When people try to control other people they view them as an object with no value except for what the object (you) can give them. These people tell you what you should do, how you should act and how you should be. Notice the word “should”. Once the “shoulds” come out of their mouths, you know you are viewed not as a “someone”.
Do they call you names or otherwise label you? Labeling is the surest way to put a person into a neat describable package. That package is who you are to them and not much else.
Do they dismiss your opinions, beliefs and ideas? People who treat people as “somethings” don’t care about what you think and believe. They haven’t much use for your opinion especially if it isn’t the same as their opinion.
When we step back in order to be observant rather than reactive we can notice the signs. It’s a choice we can make at any time. We can rely on our feelings too. If you notice that you are feeling irritated, annoyed, angry or anything else, think about what is causing you to feel that way. It could be that there is not something right about how you are being treated by the other person. We often have bodily sensations that can tell us that something is bothering us in our personal interaction with someone. Our gut might bother us. Our chest might tighten. Our muscles might tense up. We can have any number of physical sensations. It’s up to us to notice how our bodies feel.
I believe that it is healthy and necessary to put into practice walking towards people who treat us like a “somebody” while walking away from people who treat us like a “someone”. This is something that I intend to do as much as possible. I encourage you to do it too.
I don’t let a down day get me down.
Yesterday was the worst day that I have had in long time. My pain was extreme and I had some other very difficult symptoms. My day was what is usually called a flare-up. That’s “fibromyalgia speak” for the experience of feeling shitty in the most possible ways. I liken it to a really bad flu mixed with a reaction to ingesting a poisonous toxin.
I live with chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia. I do not tend to focus on it because I have found that paying too much attention to it makes me feel worse. I don’t want to irritate people by talking about it either. For this article, I mention it because I want to make it clear what I mean by a down day.
Such a day can trigger depression. It surely did. But, I reminded myself not to let it get me down. I reminded myself that such a day does not define the next day. I won’t say that today is a vastly improved day over yesterday. It is a better day.
By reminding myself that a down day doesn’t have to get me down I was able to handle it. According to Susan Jeffers, Ph.D., who wrote “Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway”, the belief that we can’t handle something is at the bottom of most all of our fears. I was able to handle it and I’ve been able to handle it many times before. I don’t fear it. I am tired of it. Chronic pain is tiring. I can’t say that I believe that it has it’s place (that there is a reason for it). It’s just good to know that I can handle it. And, I will handle it.
Despite the pain which in life is inevitable the heart of life is good. John Mayer sings that the heat of life is good in his song “The Heart of Life”. I agree. There is so much to do and experience. I don’t want to miss those things. There are so many connections with good people to be made. I don’t want to miss that either.
I keep moving forward so that the experience of life in whatever form it takes is a new opportunity for me to live.
Back From Hiatus Hippy Chic Jewelry Classes Begin Anew Starting July 2018
Beginning July 16th 2018 at the Catherine Schweinsberg Rood Central Library (formerly the Central Brevard Public Library) in Cocoa Florida Hippy Chic Jewelry Classes will be offered again. Once a month a new and exciting project will be offered at both the newly rebuilt Mims-Scottsmoor Public Library and the Catherine Schweinsberg Rood Central Library. The dates for each class and the class that is being offered can be found on the events calendar on this website.
In the upcoming months plans are in the works for very different types of projects that use simple household items like old cds/dvds and nail polish. Projects that use these types of materials will include fairy wing earrings and glass dragon eyes. Stay tuned by visiting our site regularly to see what fun projects are offered for your participation in the future. It’s can be challenging to make your own jewelry but the rewards are surely worth it. Hope to see you very soon!
I easily set boundaries.
Hmmm…setting boundaries. How many of us struggle with this one? Why is it so tough to do it? Is it about fitting in and being liked? Is it about childhood conditioning? Is it something else?
I struggle with setting boundaries. I envy the people who easily say “NO”. They just come out and say it without blinking or flinching. Not me. My first inclination is to say “YES”. Later on I realize what I am getting myself into and then I regret it.
Recently I am struggling with setting boundaries with someone who has befriended me who lives very near me. She seems like a nice person but now she is becoming a bit of a nuisance. She wants more of my time and effort than I want to give. So, here I am trying to figure out how to nicely create space between us without upsetting her feelings. This is a lesson to learn. Do not jump into friendships with people, especially if they live in your neighborhood.
To answer the above questions that I began this post with would take some research. Maybe, another day I will address that. My gut tells me that a lot of boundary setting difficulty or ease has to do with childhood conditioning. The people who want to please their parents as children have a difficult time setting boundaries as adults. The question is this, “Are these people naturally predisposed in their personalities to want to please their parents or is it just that their parents are so forceful that they are trained to want to please them?” I do wonder.
It would be really cool if we could go back to the first moment when we made the decision to react to our parents in a way to please them. In that moment, if we could be an observer, we could discover if we naturally wanted to please them from our own inborn personality. Of course, there is no way to really do that or study that. I believe this to be true because that first moment has to be at such a young age that it would be next to impossible to study.
As to my own struggle with people-pleasing, I am going to have to remind myself to say “NO” to this person who is in my life right now and know that it is okay. I don’t have to let her have what she wants all the time. My wants and needs are important too. And I will remind myself that each time I set a boundary I respect myself and that it will get easier every time that I practice this skill.
Here’s to the freedom to set boundaries without guilt.
I focus on doing what I need to do.
I tend to be a bit “scatter-brained” most of the time. I don’t mean to be. It’s something I have lived with all of my life. I guess nowadays this inability to focus on one thing is known as ADD. I even had a psychologist from my past who told me that that I have ADD. I didn’t get put on medication and I will not take any medication now.
I think this tendency arises from being so interested in so many different things that it is hard for me to focus on just one thing. It also arises out of my loss of interest in something after I start it. I’m great with beginning things. It’s ending them that is the problem. I have many unfinished projects just sitting around waiting for my attention. I feel guilty for the clutter that has accumulated from these projects.
So, it’s time to clean up the clutter from these neglected projects.But, before I do I need to focus on what I need to do and get that done first. When I do that first, I feel a little better about what I still want to do.
If you are like me and you are feeling a bit overwhelmed by all the stuff that needs to be done and all the stuff that you want to do, try taking this first step. Then go forward from there.