Hippy Affirmation Day 32

I walk towards people who treat me like I am a “someone”. I walk away from people who treat me like a “something”.

I walk towards people who treat me like a "someone".

I walk towards people who treat me like a “someone”.

This is not so easy to do. It takes time and practice to understand how we are being treated by people. Learning to be more observant is fundamental. Here’s some tips for making the distinction between being treated like a “someone” or a “something”.

Are they really listening to you? Some people are monologists. They talk at you not to you. They drone on and on while not giving you a chance to have an “in” for the conversation (if we can even call it a conversation). Some people are waiting to jump in to talk just to add their opinion or just to be able to participate in the conversation. Then, there are people who want to be argumentative and/or opinionated no matter what you have to say. People who respond with a shrug, a grunt or some other non-direct way just aren’t listening to you at all.

Are they paying attention to you?Are they looking at you? Are they touching you to make physical contact? Are they giving you verbal responses? When someone’s attention is somewhere else these days it’s usually on a media device like a TV, a computer, a cell phone or a tablet. These distractions surely don’t foster connection on a physical level. You can be sure that someone has not got your attention when they are wrapped up in their media.

Are they trying to control you?When people try to control other people they view them as an object with no personal value except for what the object (you) can give them. These people tell you what you should do, how you should act and how you should be. Notice the word “should”. Once the shoulds come out of their mouths, you know you are viewed not as a “someone”.

Do they call you names or otherwise label you? Labeling is the surest way to put a person into a neat describable package. That package is who you are to them and not much else. 

Do they dismiss your opinions, beliefs and ideas? People who treat people as “somethings” don’t care about what you think and believe. They haven’t much use for your opinion especially if it doesn’t line up with their opinion.

When we step back in order to be observant rather than reactive we can notice the signs. It’s a choice we can make at any time. We can rely on our feelings too. If you notice that you are feeling irritated, annoyed, angry or anything else, think about what is causing you to feel that way. It could that there is not something right about how you are being treated by the other person. We often have bodily sensations that can tell us that something is bothering us in our personal interaction with someone. Our gut might bother us. Our chest might tighten. Our muscles might tense up. We can have any number of physical sensations. It’s up to us to notice how our bodies feel.

I believe that it is healthy and necessary to put into practice walking towards people who treat us like a “somebody” while walking away from people who treat us like a “someone”. This is something that I intend to do as much as possible. I encourage you to do it too.

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Mims/Scottsmoor Grand Re-Opening

Mims/Scottsmoor Grand Re-Opening

Mims/Scottsmoor Grand Re-Opening

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Hippy Affirmation Day 31

I don’t let a down day get me down.

I don't let a down day get me down.Yesterday was the worst day that I have had in awhile. My pain was extreme and I had some other very difficult symptoms. My day was what is usually called a flare-up. That’s “fibromyalgia speak” for the experience  of feeling shitty in the most possible ways. I liken it to a really bad flu mixed with a reaction to a poisonous toxin.

I live with chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia. I do not tend to focus on it because I have found that paying too much attention to it makes me feel worse. I don’t want to irritate people by talking about it either. For this article, I mention it because I want to convey what I mean by a down day.

One can imagine that such a day can trigger depression. It surely did. But, I reminded myself not to let it get me down. I reminded myself that such a day does not define the next day. I won’t say that today is a vastly improved day over yesterday. It is a better day.

By reminding myself that a down day doesn’t have to get me down I was able to handle it. According to Susan Jeffers, Ph.D., who wrote “Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway”, the belief that we can’t handle something is at the bottom of most all of our fears. I was able to handle it and I’ve been able to handle it. I don’t fear it. I am tired of it. Chronic pain is tiring. I can’t say that I believe that it has it’s place (that there is a reason for it). It’s just good to know that I can handle it. And, I will handle it.

Despite the pain which in life is inevitable the heart of life is good. There is so much to do and experience. I don’t want to  miss those things. There are so many connections with good people to be made. I don’t want to miss that either.

I keep moving forward so that the experience of life in whatever form it takes is a new opportunity for me to live.

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Announcing New Classes

Back From Hiatus Hippy Chic Jewelry Classes Begin Anew Starting July 2018

Class Collage

Class Collage

Beginning July 16th 2018 at the Catherine Schweinsberg Rood Central Library (formerly the Central Brevard Public Library) in Cocoa Florida Hippy Chic Jewelry Classes will be offered again. Once a month a new and exciting project will be offered at both the newly rebuilt Mims-Scottsmoor Public Library and the Catherine Schweinsberg Rood Central Library. The dates for each class and the class that is being offered can be found on the events calendar on this website.

In the upcoming months plans are in the works for very different types of projects that use simple household items like old cds/dvds and nail polish. Projects that use these types of materials will include fairy wing earrings and glass dragon eyes. Stay tuned by visiting our site regularly to see what fun projects are offered for your participation in the future. It’s can be challenging to make your own jewelry but the rewards are surely worth it. Hope to see you very soon!

 

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Hippy Affirmation Day 30

I easily set boundaries.

I easily set boundaries.Hmmm…setting boundaries. How many of us struggle with this one? Why is it so tough to do it? Is it about fitting in and being liked? Is it about childhood training? Is it something else?

I struggle with setting boundaries. I envy the people who easily say “NO”. They just come out and say it without blinking or flinching. Not me. My first inclination is to say “YES”. Later on I realize what I am getting myself into and then I regret it.

Recently I am struggling with setting boundaries with someone who has befriended me who lives very near me. She seems like a nice person but now she is becoming a bit of a nuisance. She wants more of my time and effort than I want to give. So, here I am trying to figure out how to nicely create space between us without upsetting her feelings. This is a lesson to learn. Do not jump into friendships with people, especially if they live nearby.

To answer the above questions that I began this post with would take some research. Maybe, another day I will address that. My gut tells me that a lot of boundary setting difficulty or ease has to do with childhood training. The people who want to please their parents as children have a difficult time setting boundaries. And, this carries on over into adulthood with other people. The question is this, “Are these people naturally predisposed in their personalities to want to please their parents or is it just that their parents are so forceful that they are trained to want to please them?” I do wonder.

It would be really cool if we could go back to the first moment when we made the decision to react to our parents in a way to please them. In that moment, if we could be an observer, we could discover if we naturally wanted to please them from our own inborn personality. Of course, there is no way to really do that or study that. I believe this to be true because that first moment has to be at such a young age that it would be next to impossible to study.

As to my own struggle with people-pleasing, I am going to have to remind myself to say “NO” to this person who is in my life right now and know that it is okay. I don’t have to let her have what she wants all the time. My wants and needs are important too. And I will remind myself that each time I set a boundary I respect myself and that it will get easier every time that I practice this skill.

Here’s to the freedom to set boundaries without guilt. 

 

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Hippy Affirmation Day 29

I focus on doing what I need to do.

I focus on doing what I need to do.I tend to be a bit “scatter-brained” most of the time. I don’t mean to be. It’s something I have struggled with all of my life. I guess nowadays this inability to focus on one thing is known as ADD. I even had a psychologist from my past who told me that that I have ADD. I didn’t get put on medication and I will not take any medication now.

I think this tendency arises from being so interested in so many different things that it is hard for me to focus on just one thing. It also arises out of my loss of interest in something after I start it. I’m great with beginning things. It’s ending them that is the problem. I have many unfinished projects just sitting around waiting for my attention. I feel guilty for the clutter that has accumulated from these projects.

So, it’s time to clean up the clutter from these neglected projects. But, before I do I need to focus on what I need to do and get that done first. When I do that first, I feel a little better about what I still want to do. 

If you are like me and you are feeling a bit overwhelmed by all the stuff that needs to be done and all the stuff that you want to do, try taking this first step. Then go forward from there.

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Delight In Creating With My Students

I am continually delighted and surprised by what my students create.

fairy pendant with blue rose and cathedral crystal necklace and earring set

Today I taught a private lesson with my student, Sam. She had the blue roses and the crystals. We found the blue cathedral crystals, grey pearls and fairy pendant in my stock of supplies to complete this stunning necklace and earring set. She had something different in mind when she envisioned what she would do with the roses. She was happy with the results even though it wasn’t what she had thought she was going to make. Collaborating on this set together was a real pleasurable experience.

I am finding that I get more excited every day helping others create jewelry than I do making it on my own. It may be because I am a very social personality type. It may be because I like teaching people. It may be because I just love the results. I may be all those reasons and more. But, it doesn’t really matter why. It’s just so cool that I have the opportunity to teach and share my love of jewelry making. I am very grateful.

 

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Happy Students – Happy Customers

These ladies are happy to wear their hippy chics jewelry.

Sue wearing her creation.

Sue is wearing her creation that she did with the help of Angela Star aka Hippy Chic.

Sue's creation with the help of Angela Star aka Hippy Chic.

Sue’s necklace and earring set. The pendant is actually a reversible watch piece.

Sherry is wearing a commissioned set made by Angela Star with the Colts football team theme.

Sherry is wearing a commissioned set made by Angela Star with the Colts football team theme.

Colts football team themed necklace and earring set.

Colts football team themed necklace and earring set.

 

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Hippy Affirmation Day 28

I train my mind to see the positive in people.

I train my mind to see the positive in other people.I’d like to take credit for this affirmative idea. I can’t because I found it in the book The Friendship Factor  by Alan Loy McGinnis. I luckily happened upon this book at a thrift store and at the cost of only 50 cents. It’s a book with lots of valuable advice that I am glad to keep in my library to refer to over and over again. 

I could do an extensive article on the book’s ideas. For now, I just want to concentrate on just this one. I’m not sure if it is natural to see the faults or shortcomings in people before we see the positives. It would seem so, perhaps as a way to protect ourselves from anything that comes our way that may be threatening.

The trouble with focusing on the negative about people is that the negative begins to be all that we see. We may even start to focus solely on our own faults and shortcomings (not just those of other people). Focusing on the positive is more productive. Training our mind to look for the positive in people does not overlook bad treatment or poor behavior. It just helps us to tend to not take what people do or say personally. It helps us to develop distance as an observer. A big bonus is that we are training our minds to be in a more positive frame overall.

Training our minds to see the positive in people, as well as ourselves, frees us up. It takes a weight off of us. It helps us to give them and us the “benefit of the doubt”. Try it. You’ll see. Life will seem less burdensome and less of a trial. You’ll feel more light-hearted. Isn’t that what we all are seeking – to go through our days feeling lighter and happier?

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Angela Star Teaches Jewelry Making Classes

Hippy Chics Jewelry is proud to announce
that Angela Star is now offering
instruction in making jewelry.
Click here for upcoming events.

Angela Star cuts out the letters before painting the truck gate that will advertise Hippy Chics Jewelry.

Angela Star cuts out the letters by hand before painting the truck gate to advertise her classes.

Making jewelry is rewarding. It’s a skill that is a life-long journey because there are so many forms of expression and materials to work with. There is silversmithing, wire working, braiding, bead stringing and so much more. Angela Star of Hippy Chics Jewelry is passing on her expertise in jewelry.

Classes are offered in both private and group instruction. Group classes are usually offered with a specific project in mind with a price that includes the project, instruction and materials.

Gorgeous druzy purple and green agate with opalite beads, rainforest beads, purple chalcedony, crystals, and green e beads.

Necklace of gemstones, e beads, crystals and stunning druzy agate pendant made by a student in a private lesson.

 

Private classes are less structured. Usually a student chooses from materials that she has then they create a project together. She has a large amount of jewelry beads, wire, and findings in stock that she offers at reasonable prices.

She also teaches classes at the local libraries.  The Mims/Scottsmoor Library desert rain earrings class was a great success. She will be offering a class in making a tree of life pendant from two different colored wires and bead chips at the Titusville Library. If you like, she will host a group class in your home or at a public place like the library or your favorite coffee shop.

Testimonials from students:

“I really have fun taking classes with Angela. She is so helpful.” Sam Bailes

“It was my first time to learn how to make a necklace. The class was fun and interesting. She is a very knowledgeable and enthusiastic instructor. I learned a lot and plan to go back again.” Sue Chang

Bracelet of purple and pink chaton beads and silver filligree beads made by a student in a private class.

Bracelet of purple and pink chaton beads and silver filligree beads made by a student in a private class.

Two owl bracelets of multi-colored glass beads and owl howlite focal bead made by a student in a group class.

Two owl bracelets of multi-colored glass beads and owl howlite focal bead made by a student in a group class.

Contact Angela today for a private lesson. You’ll have fun while making something unique that you can be proud to wear or to give as a gift. Just be careful not to get too addicted to the art of jewelry creation (or the beautiful beads, pendants, findings, etc.)

Future classes will be published on this website and updated on Facebook. So keep checking the calendar for the opportunity to take a group class.

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